How to navigate new sexual situations with new partners

One thing my guest, Claire Perelman, and I agree on is that we don’t talk enough about sex with the people we have it with… even though it can make the entire experience safer and more pleasurable. You’ll come away from this episode with scripts and tips for bringing up conversations that are so important but can be kinda awkward.

My guest, Claire Perelman (a certified sex therapist), and I covered so much ground in this brand-new episode all about sex. We talked about creating safety with new partners, how to deal with a lack of experience, having same-gender sex for the first time and healing sexual trauma. We also answer a listener question at the end about how to deal with a bad texter.

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About Claire Perelman

Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish Sex Therapist living and working in the Bay Area. She is passionate about helping people rediscover play, pleasure, and abundance in their sexuality. Relationships have been the source of her greatest pleasure and heartbreak, which led her to specialize in working with couples, individuals, and polycules around sex and intimacy. You can find her at @sexclarified (on all platforms) and www.sexclarified.com.

Here’s what we get into in this episode:

Why Claire became a sex therapist
The surprisingly common issues Claire sees in her practice when it comes to sex and dating
The difference between social media advice and working with a professional
How to approach the decision to have sex with a new partner
Common challenges inside/outside the bedroom that someone experiences if they’ve had sexual trauma
What steps to take to rebuild trust and safety
Types of therapy or modalities that are helpful for survivors to reclaim their sexuality
Tips for communicating pacing and taking it slow when it comes to sex
How to approach consent without killing the mood
Navigating sex when you lack experience and if you’re newly out as queer
Best dating advice for a newly out bisexual or queer person
Unexpected differences between queer and straight dating
Building a sense of safety with a new partner
Giving/taking feedback

I hope you enjoyed this episode!